A Tale of Two People

I can see the different version.
"When bastard said wat do you expect, huh? You think you live in wonderland ah? People dun need to work 1 ah? always worry about you? You can't stand alone and do it by yourself? Always want to depend on people?""
He thinks: she is just another adult knowing fully well how to take care of herself and does not require me to worry about her. I expect her to be like him, I expect her to be an independent, self-supporting person and someone who can solve your own problems, he expects you to see him only when there are important matters i.e. life and death
You think: He is the world to me, whatever he does concerns me, if he is not well, I am not well too. it's not that i want to bug him all the time, it's just my good intentions to show that i care for him. I want to make sure that he is happy. When he is unhappy, I want him to share with me. I want to shower him with all my care,if possible I will call him on the phone to0 tell him I love him and I miss him lots and lots. It is not that I don't care about others ( friends, family, career) but he stands out as my top priority, so he deserves my attention, I am treating him very well because I love him and i want to live a happy life with him. I am treating you so well, and i expect you to give me (if possible) the same level of attention, if not the same level..80% will do, I will be very happy..if 70% still good but needs improvement ..if 50%, he is not very sensitive,,but ok la sometimes...if 30% - insensitive guy ..all guys are the same, anything less than 30% - he doesn't care about me, he only thinks about others but me, I am not the priority if 0% - BASTARD
Did you see the similar pattern of argument??
Both parties want their partner to think and behave like them. That is the source of the conflict....to be continued..